Self confidence and self esteem
Self confidence is a necessary, basic resource and so those lacking in confidence often find themselves searching for help in other areas;
- Public speaking
- Overcoming shyness
- Social phobia / social anxiety
- Exams
- Driving test
- Presentations
- Job interviews
- Dating
- Fears of rejection and failure
- Weight issues
Lacking in confidence is often characterised by a fear of failure, or a fear or expectation that something bad will happen that will cause them anxiety, embarrassment or feelings of inadequacy.
A lack of confidence can really hold you back, affecting your working, family and social life. In severe cases it can lead to anxiety disorders (such as agoraphobia, panic attacks) and depression.
Boosting self confidence
Confidence is not something you can just turn on and off. If you suffer from low self esteem you can’t just ‘think yourself’ confident and feel better about yourself. People can tell you how great you are but hearing it and agreeing with it won’t make you feel it.
So why can’t you stop thinking negatively? Why can’t you stop feeling nervous? Why can’t you stop feeling shy or inadequate? Consider this for a moment; if I asked you to not think of a pink giraffe, it’s probably the first thing that pops into your mind. If you try to get an irritating song out of your head, you will struggle. If you try to feel more confident, chances are it will have little or no effect.
Feeling confident is not something you should have to force or have to work at. Feeling confident should be natural, easy and effortless. And yet for you, it isn’t. Why? The more you try to think about being confident, the more you analyse the situations where you’re not. And the more you focus on it, the worse it can get because for some reason your subconscious doesn’t want you to be confident.
To overcome this, some people will try putting themselves into situations where they lack confidence, in the hope that it will become easier. Some attempt to avoid situations that make them feel anxious, shy or embarrassed. Others may use direct hypnosis suggestion to visualise themselves being more confident and to override their feelings of low self worth or nervousness. But unfortunately, none of these methods resolve what caused the lack of confidence / self esteem in the first place, and so eventually the problem will just keep coming back and the self doubt will never go away.
Why, Why, Why?
The most effective way to cure problems of confidence and boost self esteem completely and permanently, is to resolve what’s causing it; if there is no longer any cause, there can be no effect.
So why do you lack confidence? You have probably puzzled over this many times before. Looked for reasons, triggers behind it. Perhaps you know why; your mum, brother, or other family member suffers from it too. Or maybe you’ve suffered depression or gone through a situation that’s caused you embarrassment and you fear it will happen again. But knowing this doesn’t make you feel any more confident. Or maybe you can’t think of any reasons to explain it. But that doesn’t mean there is no cause, because for something to exist it has to have been created. It has to come from somewhere.
Beneath all the triggers and confirmation there is a single, root cause stored away in the subconscious mind. It’s something you can’t think of. Something small, easily forgotten, easily overlooked. It’s like that bit of grit in your eye. Once you find it, it can be hard to believe that something so small could have caused so much trouble.
It can take years for our problems, conditions and symptoms to get a good hold over us. Something that starts out as a minor irritation gets worse and worse until it causes us so much suffering that we eventually seek help to put it right.
Hypnotherapy as a cure for low self confidence and low self esteem
Curative hypnotherapy is distinguished from all other forms of hypnotherapy primarily by its use of logic. The therapist approaches each person without theories or preconceptions – except for one – that the answer to your low self confidence lies only within your subconscious mind. With Curative Hypnotherapy there is no need to suppress or manage your symptoms. By resolving and correcting the true cause, your self confidence and self esteem will increase, disposing of any feelings of self doubt, nervousness and/or expectation that you will be embarrassed until eventually your problem is nothing but a vague and distant memory.
With curative hypnotherapy you will not be required to relive any traumatic or upsetting situation. All you will feel is beautifully relaxed
Next step…
If you would like to explore further about how curative hypnotherapy can help with confidence or other issues of low self esteem, then please contact us to book an initial consultation.
At the City Hypnotherapy Centre, Susannah provides a safe and relaxing environment in which to explore your issues openly without judgment, and free from reliving unwanted emotions. Everything is treated in the strictest of confidence.